Hello from Charleston!
Chris and I arrived here yesterday as a belated celebration for our 5th anniversary that was in June. If you recall, our anniversary was at the end of my 2nd quarter and Chris was gone with the Army to Kentucky for that month so we didn’t get a chance to celebrate. My mother-in-law graciously agreed to come to Georgia to watch the girls so we could take a little getaway by ourselves.
Leaving the girls yesterday was pretty hard, I am not going to lie. If you can believe it, in the nearly 3 years since I became a mom I have spent one night away from my children. To say it was about time is an understatement. While I absolutely cherish my role as mom, my role as wife is as important if not MORE important and it is time to cultivate that relationship. Things certainly have changed quite a bit since we said “I do”. We were so young then and so very much in love. Fortunately, although we are a tad older, we are still very much in love and I am really looking forward to these few days.
You see, when I became a mom it was easy to put on my mom hat and sometimes forget my wife hat. Sure I made dinner, kept the house clean, and supported my husband, but finding the time to spend just the two of us without one kid or the other needing our attention has been challenging. Throw in his job which is time consuming and has involved a lot of travel with my insane PA school schedule, finding that time has been even more difficult.
However, it is absolutely essential to always make your marriage a priority. We attended a marriage retreat last weekend that reminded me of that even more. We as husband and wife are setting the example of what marriage should be to our girls. We all have our relationship role models we look up to (mine is my sister and her husband who just celebrated 17 years of marriage). I want Chris and I to be that shining example that our children aspire to have with their future spouses. That means taking off my mom hat every now and then and putting the wife hat firmly on.
Chris and I have experienced a lot in our five years of marriage. He deployed to Afghanistan before we even got to our 1st anniversary and that experience taught us the power of communication. We became parents to two beautiful girls which taught us the power of teamwork. We have gotten through his command time and are now more than halfway through my didactic portion of PA school which taught us about supporting one another unconditionally. Our marriage has never been stronger but even strong marriages need time to grow even more.
So we are here in Charleston reconnecting, getting full nights sleep, and remembering just why we chose to spend our lives together 😉 I anticipate lots of fun and laughter because that’s what has always been at the center of our relationship so this should be a good time!
Don’t forget that every relationship, no matter how strong, needs to be fed to grow and blossom. Think about one thing you could do this week to feed an important relationship in your life. Whether that be with your spouse, your children, or another family member.
How do you feed the important relationships in your life? Is it hard to wear many hats?